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This is chapter 14 of the Success Secrets of the Rich and Happy Book.
By Bart Baggett
Authors, Speaker, Entreprenuer
I remember my dad teaching me the power of
language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when
I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees,
poles, and literally hanging around upside down
from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came as
no surprise to my dad to find me at the top of a
30-foot tree, swinging back and forth. My little
eight-year-old brain didn’t realize the tree could
break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun
to be up so high.
My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same
tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about
ten feet below me. Tammy’s mother also noticed
us at the exact same time my dad did. About that
time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could
hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to
sway. I remember my dad’s voice over the wind
yell, “Bart, Hold on tightly.” So I did. The next thing
I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of
her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen
out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later
told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently,
Tammy’s mother was not as an astute student of
language as my father. When Tammy’s mother felt
the gust of wind, she yelled out, “Tammy, don’t fall!”
And Tammy did… fall.
My dad then explained to me that the mind has a
very difficult time processing a negative image. In
fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot
see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process
the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain
had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain
not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my
eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image
of me hanging on tightly.
This is why people who try to stop smoking struggle
with the ct of stopping smoking. They are running
pictures all day of themselves smoking. Smokers are
rarely taught to see themselves breathing fresh air
and feeling great. The language itself becomes one
barrier to success.
This concept is especially useful when you are
attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can’t
visualize not doing something. The only way to
properly visualize not doing something is to actually
find a word for what you want to do and visualize
that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I
played for my junior high school football team. I
tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn’t get it
together at that age. I remember hearing the words
run through my head as I was running out for a
pass, “Don’t drop it!” Naturally, I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us
proper “self-talk.” They just thought some kids could
catch and others couldn’t. I’ll never make it pro, but I’m
now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player,
because all my internal dialogue is positive and
encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me
playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might
have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids
and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary.
Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them.
Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them,
“Okay, try to drop the pencil.” Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil
hit the floor. You respond, “You weren’t paying
attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please
do it again.” Most people then pick up the pencil and
pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries
but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made.
If you tell your brain you will “give it a try,” you are
actually telling your brain to fail. I have a “no try” rule in
my house and with everyone I interact with. Either
people will do it or they won’t. Either they will be at
the party or they won’t. I’m brutal when people
attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they
think I don’t know they are really telegraphing to the
world they have no intention of doing it but they want
me to give them brownie points for pretended effort?
You will never hear the words “I’ll try” come out of
my mouth unless I’m teaching this concept in a seminar.
If you “try” and do something, your unconscious mind
has permission not to succeed. If I truly can’t make a
decision I will tell the truth. “Sorry John. I’m not sure
if I will be at your party or not. I’ve got an outstanding
commitment. If that falls through, I will be here.
Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite.”
People respect honesty. So remove the word “try”
from your vocabulary. My dad also told me that
psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive
statements to offset one negative statement. I have
no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might
take up to seventeen compliments to offset the
emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when
raising children. Ask yourself how many compliments
you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms.
Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long.
We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you
shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, “I suck.
I’m fat. Nobody will like me. I’ll try this diet. I’m not
good enough. I’m so stupid. I’m broke, etc. etc.”
If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with
one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming
you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal
dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.
Notice when you or other people use them.
But – negates any words that are stated before it.
If – presupposes that you may not.
Would have – past tense that draws attention to
things that didn’t actually happen.
Should have – past tense that draws attention to
things that didn’t actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Could have – past tense that draws attention to
things that didn’t actually happen but the person
tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Try – presupposes failure.
Might – It does nothing definite. It leaves options
for your listener.
Can’t / Don’t – These words force the listener
to focus on exactly the opposite of what you
want. This is a classic mistake that parents and
coaches make without knowing the damage of
this linguistic error.
Toxic phrase: “Don’t drop the ball!”
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: “Catch the ball!”
Toxic phrase: “You shouldn’t watch so
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: “I read too much television
makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning
that TV off and picking up one of those books more
Exercise: Take a moment to write down
all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic
self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write
these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself
as they occur and change them.
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Turning Negative Self-Talk into POWERFUL Self-Talk
I have found that when you ask questions to yourself, your unconscious mind gives you answers.
By doing this, you have to consciously ask yourself well-composed questions.
According to University of Queensland, with its study of how senses influence the sum of our experiences, the consistent feeding of the conscious mind affects the subconscious mind.
How can I feel more confident at work?
What could I do to help me feel unstoppable?
So even if you don’t know the answer, if you ask the question every day, your brain begins working on that. And one of the easy techniques, especially when you have a problem, let’s say you have a spousal problem or you don’t know if you should quit your job, you don’t know how to handle a conflict, if you simply release it to the universe, ask the question, “How do I improve my marriage?”
Take that question, and write it down where you will see it a few times a day. I’ve seen people put in on their screensaver on their computer, on a post-it note on the dashboard of their car, or on a piece of paper next to the toothpaste. The trick to place it somewhere you’ll see the question every day. You don’t have to work on the question or the solution. Just see it. Read it. Let it sit in your mind and percolate.
So here’re some examples, “How can I pay off my debt quickly? How can I double my income? What’s the fastest way I can attract $5000 dollars?”
Do you see how these questions are useful, and direct your mind in finding multiple answers?
They are well-crafted, linguistically-clever questions which pre-suppose that an answer is possible, and allow your brain to work on finding answers.
In my life, I simply pick one question on an index card, and I place it on my bathroom mirror. So, I read it at least twice a day.
Don’t put 20 questions on 20 index cards on your bathroom sink; you’ll overwhelm yourself. What happens if you have 20 stickers and notecards?
Your brain will begin to simply not see them anymore. You will stop reading them because your brain has a hard time handling 20 different bits of information at the exact same time. Just choose one question a day, and keep that question active until your brain has had time to come up with some creative solutions. I’ve seen people use the same question for one day, one month, even one year.
You can put one question in the kitchen and one at your office desk. I’m suggesting that you just don’t overdo it.
Here are some more questions which you might find useful…?
“How can I make a million dollars? How can I experience more freedom while earning money?”
Notice that these questions are very well-phrased. The structure of the question is the key.
The Structure of a Well–Crafted Question
Don’t create a question which results in internal criticism.
Avoid questions like, “How come I’m fat?”
If I say “How come I’m fat”, what answers will I get? My brain will give me many reasons why I’m fat. What’s worse, the reasons I get from the sentence structure pre-suppose and confirm the belief that I am fat. Not empowering.
So why don’t you ask, “Why am I broke?”. There is a reason this in empowering question.
Your inner voice might respond with comments like “Because you’re lazy or … Because you’re untalented.” These are answers which are not empowering. Inner talk like this leads to depression and hesitation. In many cases, it begins to erode a person’s self-esteem. None of this is helping you find solutions to your financial problems. The focus becomes the problems, not the solutions.
The key to a good question is wording it in a specific language structure which creates a “solution frame”.
Again, don’t ask a question which results in negative answers. There is a time and place for looking at your life through a lens of authenticity and brutal honesty. Evaluating any bad habits and working to change them can be useful. The Magic Question technique is not that time. If you drink too much or don’t exercise, you probably already are aware of these non-optimal habits. Instead of dwelling on these short-term bad habits, you can reframe these issues into Magic Questions while focusing on solutions, not rehashing the problem.
The goal of this chapter is to easily recognize a well-crafted Magic Question, which only has good answers or great answers that empower you.
So what I’d like you to do is read the list of questions below and decide whether or not they are effective and useful questions.
Why do I keep spending all my money?
Why do I have no self-control?
Why can’t I get a raise?
Are these good questions? Yes? No?
Those are terrible questions!
In fact, you will notice all of the above questions start with ‘why’. In general, I avoid questions with ‘why’ and you should, too. While there might be a question that contains the word ‘why’, which will be empowering, in general you could replace the ‘why’ with ‘how’ and create an even better question.
For example, you could write down “Why am I so awesome?” This is not a bad question. It pre-supposes that you are awesome. Your brain looks in the now and in the past to find reasons why you are, indeed, so awesome. However, part of the inherent brilliance of a well-crafted Magic Question is for your brain to look in the now and the future. The future is where you can make changes and improve. I would coach this person to change the question to “What can I do today to be even more awesome?”
Granted, this is a silly question, which you might not find yourself using. But it illustrates the point quite well. As a general rule, avoid ‘why’ questions.
So let’s identify some “good” and “bad” questions.
Why am I always failing? Bad
Why can’t I get a raise? Bad
Why am I not taller? Bad
Why am I so fat? Bad
How can I easily pay off this debt? Good
How sexy do I look today? Good
How sexy is my husband? Good
How much fun are we having? Good
Why can’t I ever get ahead in life? Bad
Why is my relationship so miserable? Bad
Why don’t I have enough money? Bad
How can I find enough money? Good
How much fun will it be to be rich? Good
Now you get it. Do you see the difference?
What steps do I need to take to start my own business now? Good
How easy would it be to get a $10,000 raise in my income this year? Good
What are my best options for earning extra money? Good
Now, write some questions on a piece of paper and evaluate the quality of the questions. What area of your life did you decide to work on; money, career, love?
Ask a question related to your relationship. Write it down. Make it empowering. If you find a great question, make two or three variations on that same question.
Here are some examples:
• How do I get my ideas heard and adhered to?
• What can I do to transform the lives of my loved ones, and help them to grow and progress as individuals?
• How can I get more money by working less?
• How can I enrich the lives of others, while enriching my life at the same time?
• How can I excel in my career, and have the time, freedom, money and opportunities to see the world?
• How can I get to be the healthiest and fittest that I have ever been?
So, basically it’s just “How can I be the healthiest, how can I be the happiest, how can I have the most energy, what foods can I eat?”
• How can I be a money-magnet?
• What are the great opportunities and investments for me now?
Nice. What are the great opportunities?
Or what investments or great opportunities, either way you want to do that. Okay? So here is what I would do to wrap up this section to make it incredibly useful for you
One of the best few questions for feeling more confidence
and boosting one’s self esteem is as follow:
What’s attractive about me today?
Which part of my life is really working well?
What is really special and unique about me?
How beautiful is my spirit?
How much value to I bring to the life of others.
The author, Bart Baggett, suggests that you only ask ONE QUESTION per day and repeat it numerous times. This process will stimulate your unconscious mind to find answers to these empowering questions.
(This article is taken from chapter 9 of the book The Magic Question-How to Get What You Want in Half the Time by Bart Baggett.)
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